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Good Friend, What is that ?

Posted in Curhat, Just Some Thought by mibnufajar on 13 December, 2012

So, I know a guy, barely know him actually, he’s almost 30 and has been single for his whole life. In many occasion, he always wonder about that. Always ask, rhetorically, “Dear God, Why am I still single ?”

I don’t know him very well, but I feel like I know why he’s single. He’s a very bitter person, a drama queen (king ?) and full of negative energy. It’s like he’s surrounded with unhappiness. The problem is, no one bothered to tell him what is wrong with him, not even his friends (again, as far as I can tell. I don’t really know him).

PS: I don’t tell him because I don’t think he will take criticism from someone he barely knows very well.

I’ve seen many cases like this. Someone stuck, falling behind, because his friends don’t have the gut to tell him “the right thing”. They usually hide behind common wisdom, “True friends accept you for who you are”. They’re afraid to hurt his feeling. Well people, you think you’re a nice friend but you’re WRONG. You should save your friend from making mistakes.

Don’t do it to your friend. If he’s too shy, tell him go out. If he’s too fat, persuade him to diet.  Make him a better person, okay ?

A Moment of Silence

Posted in Curhat by mibnufajar on 7 October, 2011

I woke very early that day, it was my last day in Bali and I wanted to make the most of it..

I watched the sunrise, did some Yoga and jogging by the beach before went for breakfast. It was a very peaceful morning.

Then I read the news while I’m having my bread.

I said “Innalillahi Wa Inna Ilaihi Roji’un” spontaneously..

I spent the rest of the morning reading obituaries (while shedding a few tears, hahah) and personal experiences from many people who had the luck to encounter Steve Jobs in their life. And from what I’ve read, he is a great man indeed (and being dead helped too, people tend to say nice things to you when you’re dead).

Thought it’s been said countless times, it is weird to feel so much connection and sadness for someone you don’t know. When my friend’s dad died, i feel sad for my friend, for how he felt. But when Steve Jobs passed, i feel sad for my self. It really feels like losing a relative..

Three or four years ago, if someone had asked me, name one person, dead or alive, you would loved to have a chance to chat with, I would’ve come up with a generic answer like Mahatma Ghandi or Albert Einstein. But it was all changed when I read about Steve Jobs. His excellence, his temper, his passion, his perseverance, his perfectionism, his taste, he is an inspiration. Until now, not one person has ever had so much influence on my way of thinking and doing things other than him.


If being asked to name that one person to chat with, have you found yours ?




Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

–Steve Jobs–

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Unlimited Wants Vs. Limited Resources

Posted in Curhat by mibnufajar on 23 November, 2010

Sounds familiar ?

It’s the very foundation of economic problem. It’s the reason why we should learn about interest rate, the complex mathematic solution to annuities, about accounting, about debits and credits. It’s why “Economy” major exist.

Unlimited wants vs. limited resources, or scarcity, is a problem that occurred because humans have unlimited things they want, but our earth can only provide a limited resources to fulfill those wants (please note there’s a vast difference between “want” and “need”). That’s why we need economy, to distribute those resources appropriately.

Now, I’m not gonna tell a boring tale about economic theories here.. Just a short quote from my first grade teacher in High School.. Her name is Mrs. Syamsiar. She’s not exactly someone i would call a “model teacher” (in other word, she’s not that smart and competent), but there’s this one quote that I remember to this very day. It’s when she explained to us about the aforementioned scarcity. She was saying,

“Actually, it’s not resources that’s unlimited. There were more than enough goods for all of us. What’s limited is our MONEY, right ?”

Yep, just like that she attack the most fundamental economic problem. Adam Smith would wake up from his grave just by hearing the sentences. Of course i resent her and her theory.


Fast forward to last night, when i realize I had a major debt problem. My shopping spree were uncontrollable thanks to this little plastic card who gives me illusion I have another zero in my bank account balance ( Ok, I definitely exaggerating about how much is my credit card limit if it could add another digit to my saving, but you get the point)

It kinda made me realize that actually, to a certain extend, she was ‘right’ all along. To every person, individually, the so-called “economic problem” is not unlimited wants vs. limited resources.. but unlimited wants vs. limited incomes. Of course in bigger picture, Me and the rest of the world was right and she was wrong.

Back to my problem, I think all I need is some sanity..

I would go as far as saying that I am what I wear (My dear friend Aldre once remind me of that). Sometimes I feel insecure without good clothes (My shopping problem list mostly consists of clothes). I feel like I couldn’t match or compete with others in this harsh social world, where everything is judged by your physical appearances.

People used to tell us it’s about your heart, your inner beauty. What’s most important is that you’re nice. But apparently, now it’s ok being cruel as long as you’re hot. You deserved to be a narcissist cos you’re good looking. It’s acceptable to be a little rude cos you’re rich.

All these things are killing my self esteem. So I need all these clothes to bring me back from the deep well of desperation..

And I blame the society for my credit card bill.


I Take Things a Little Too Serious

Posted in Curhat by mibnufajar on 9 September, 2009

Following the recent drama of my life, ‘the love triangle’, I’ve been smoking heavily, it was like i’ve been doing it for years. Gosh, not-so-good.

Actually all I need to do is act cool and calm about this. Yep yep yep, I should do that.

Mau Mati Aja Rasanya..

Posted in Curhat by mibnufajar on 30 August, 2009

Pengen mati gw.. Things always turns out this wayyy..

Status Facebook Palsu

Posted in Curhat by mibnufajar on 22 August, 2009

Gila yak.. Dunia ini bener2 panggung sandiwara, apalagi Facebook tuh.. Penuh dengan kepalsuan..

Mulai dari futu2 yang diseleksi dengan ketat dah gitu masih photoshop abis baru diupload, biar keliatan yang cakep2 doang (klo ini gw juga sih, huahahaha)

Status2 yang bikin muntah.. Scara klo di Facebook ngomongnya A, padahal kelakuannya -A..

Bikin gw males sumpah..

Ada yang statusnya ngemengin cewe mulu kesannya dy dah cinta mati ma tuh cewe.. Padahal.. Cuuuuhhh, gw tau lu homo..

Ada lagi yang ngomongin Tuhan bla3.. Duh, berasa dah alim banget sumpah.. Dapat musibah pun masih bersyukur karena dianggap anugrah Tuhan..

Padahal aslinya? tukang mabok..

Palsuuuuu.. Gw benci kepalsuaaaannnnn..

Protected: Superficial World, Are you in ?

Posted in Curhat, Just Some Thought by mibnufajar on 18 August, 2009

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Posted in Curhat by mibnufajar on 14 August, 2009

Pemikiran yang akhir2 memenuhi kepala gw, seperti apa sih orang yg dewasa dalam berpikir ?

Konsensus yang umum gw temui adalah mereka meng-handle emosi dan perasaan mereka lebih baik, jadi mereka lebih tenang dan tidak meledak2.

Lalu bagaimana dengan cara orang dewasa meng-handle ‘cinta’ (the-same-old-boring-topic ) ?

I wanna know, oh I wanna know..

Fooled Me Again, Honest Eyes

Posted in Curhat by mibnufajar on 11 August, 2009

I’m such a weakling..

Emotionally retarded..

Fool !

I’ve seen this coming before..

I’ve been there before..

But why can’t I do something about it ?

The thing is, I really enjoy every minute I spend with you (and yes, that’s include minutes I heard you snoring in front of my ears)..

I didn’t even care about your past ( I lied that I know nothing about it. I do know, but I want to make you feel comfortable when you’re with me)

I can overcome your extravagant habit (I kinda found that thing in your room, and its a shock for me, but somehow i manage to keep silent)

Guess, I just did it again.. I devoted myself on some uncertainty.. Too much, Too soon..

What should I do now ?

Guess I have to make myself another challenge, the Patty Hewes’ Challenge. Hup !!!

That’s My Goal…

Posted in Curhat by mibnufajar on 5 August, 2009

Kemaren hari terakhir Semester Pendek..

Abis ujian, gw merenung.. What do I want to achieve with this ??

Apa sih yang sebenarnya gw inginkan di dunia ?

All I’m doing is live my life happily, as glamorous as I could afford.. Tapi kog berasa ga ada esensinya yah ??

Sebenarnya my short term goal is punya Mobil, tapi kog berasa ga ada effort buat mewujudkannya yah ? Ehehe..

Lulus kuliah..  Ngasih value added ke kerjaan, tapi gimana yak caranya..

ke Dokter Tulang juga nih sepertinya, ngebenerin struktur tulang gw..

Yep, kyknya gw akan mewujudkan yang ini dulu, hehe..

Baru deh fitness (gada temennya…)

Apa lagi yak..

Making as much friend as possible, and value them even more…