Ibnu Bohari

Good Friend, What is that ?

Posted in Curhat, Just Some Thought by mibnufajar on 13 December, 2012

So, I know a guy, barely know him actually, he’s almost 30 and has been single for his whole life. In many occasion, he always wonder about that. Always ask, rhetorically, “Dear God, Why am I still single ?”

I don’t know him very well, but I feel like I know why he’s single. He’s a very bitter person, a drama queen (king ?) and full of negative energy. It’s like he’s surrounded with unhappiness. The problem is, no one bothered to tell him what is wrong with him, not even his friends (again, as far as I can tell. I don’t really know him).

PS: I don’t tell him because I don’t think he will take criticism from someone he barely knows very well.

I’ve seen many cases like this. Someone stuck, falling behind, because his friends don’t have the gut to tell him “the right thing”. They usually hide behind common wisdom, “True friends accept you for who you are”. They’re afraid to hurt his feeling. Well people, you think you’re a nice friend but you’re WRONG. You should save your friend from making mistakes.

Don’t do it to your friend. If he’s too shy, tell him go out. If he’s too fat, persuade him to diet.  Make him a better person, okay ?